At the core of our live’s stories are the people we journey along with. These are the stories of intimacy with others. Story Four will walk you through the shaping of your story of intimacy. We recommend setting aside 15-20 minutes.


Intimacy is one of the beautiful experiences God has given us as relational creatures. Whether it be in the covenant of marriage, family, close friendships, or community, and sometimes in all of these, we are constantly in search of those who are journeying with us through life’s challenges.

Along the way you were probably hurt and disappointed by others too. How did this impact you?

Thinking back to your earliest memories of family to your present relationships, what is your story of intimacy?

Free Write:

Free write, don’t worry about crafting beautiful sentences or any structure, just begin writing about the first things that come into your mind. In 5-10 minutes either stop, or keep going if words continue to flow.

When in doubt, just start writing.

Take 5-10 minutes write about the various relationships you’ve had including your earliest memories of family (only you’ll see this).

How are you feeling right now? Take a moment to pause. Sometimes when we think back we can stir up feelings of sadness and remorse. That’s ok and perfectly normal. Most people who have this experience find it passes soon.

Shape Your Story:

It’s time to shape your story into something you can share with your coach.

Leaning into all you have just written, spend 5-7 minutes writing your story in a narrative form. Remember we want to hear as much as possible about your experience about your calling and how it changed the direction of your life.


Take a few minutes to answer the following questions.

  • How do you feel right now?
  • What, if anything, surprised you as you write your story?
  • How did you see God show up in your story?
  • Did you notice anything being difficult or challenging to write about?

Sometimes telling our stories makes us think of things we should do (like calling a loved one to tell them we love them or miss them).